Giving is Better Than Receiving
Back in the college waitress days, I worked with a guy whose name for the purposes of this blog shall be Lucky, in honor of the belt buckle he always wore. Lucky used to come into work every day where I would ridicule his belt buckle and then we would go about our business of waiting on tables. Maybe we would have a beer (or four) at the end of the night. More than anything else, Lucky loved to say “There is no such thing as true altruism” with a close second of “Do you want to have sex?” These remarks were not reserved for me alone but all the lovely ladies of the restaurant, except for one who was not-so-lovely, who we later found out was in the process of becoming a woman but still had man parts, which actually explained a lot, but that’s whole other story…
ANYWAY, Lucky said that no one ever really did something to benefit someone else out of the kindness of their heart but for some form of selfish reward, even if the reward was simply to feel better about themselves for doing something nice. No matter what you said, he always fell back to that “emotional benefit” that made the act of “true” altruism null and void. Since I was in college at the time, I was surrounded by people who wanted make changes in the world, people who believed in their individual capabilities and power. And I resented Lucky’s insinuation that humans are inherently selfish. After college, of course, I did get a taste of just how selfish some people can be and I had to wonder if Lucky had been associating with them back in the day.
As the season of Thanksgiving and Christmas is upon is, this is always a time of year where even the most selfish people do something good for their fellow man, even if it is just to get a tax write-off. And to those selfish people (none of whom I’m sure read my blog), I have a wonderful website to share with you. The click to give website, which has nifty little buttons that you click on once a day to donate goods to various charitable causes—feed the hungry, give mammograms, give child care, give books, protect the rainforests, or support animal rescue.
Who knows, maybe—just maybe—you could even buy something from these sites to make their sponsors feel it’s worthwhile. Christmas is around the corner, after all. (oh, and high five to Flying Mum who introduced me to this site)
There’s also Greenle, http://greenle.info/, a search engine that donates a portion of its profits to green causes. Kinda like the web version of Credo, the new name of the phone & mobile business of the company Working Assets. (Note to Working Assets: I dislike your new name. It sounds too much like Greedo)
BTW: A couple days ago, I mentioned Blackle as a search engine that uses less power, but that only applies to you if you use a CRT monitor (no school like the old school). If you use an LCD less than 24 inches, Blackle uses more power. Now you know.
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Mine is one of those flat screen things. I guess Blackle won’t work.
As for the “it’s always for a selfish reason”, I have to disagree with Lucky. Some people do things, just because it’s the right thing to do.
I don’t celebrate Thanksgiving or Christmas, but I’ll check out the links.
It won’t work on my Impressive Monitor. (the only good thing in my house! It’s true!)
Ah, doing good. It makes me feel good and it helps other people - win/win.
Yeah, I was Lucky in college, except I didn’t have what sounds like a really cool buckle. I said all people were hedonists, doing whatever their schtick was to make themselves feel good.
Fast forward to your post today, even if it’s true, even if I’m doing something to make myself feel better, at least I’ll be doing something. Nice link. Going to check it out now.
I think Lucky’s point is that even when people do things because “it’s the right thing to do,” there is an element of doing for the self there. It’s not that those people necessarily want to be rewarded or acknowledged for their good deed, but they want to feel right with themselves. They want to know that they are good people.
At the same time, it doesn’t mean “selfish” is always a bad thing. If you think it is (and I don’t mean “YOU, Riley” but a more generic “you”), you probably are the type of person who feels guilty taking “me time.” Which means maybe you’re the type to feel overwhelmed all the time.
I do good works because I want to help others. I’m selfish that way
hmmmm. I am struggling with the who to do good to question.
at this point I am thinking direct giving. As in get my ass out on the street with meals and give as opposed to the clean of the charity online.